How To Grow in Wisdom as a Mother

“If you want to grow in wisdom, spend time with the wise. Walk with the wicked and you’ll eventually become just like them.” Proverbs 13:20
Have you ever noticed how children easily mimic your way of talking, your emotional outbursts and facial/body expressions?
Some children even  go as far as doing every single thing they see you do. Just like how my little daughter pushes her lips out and asks me to apply  hers each time she sees me applying lipstick on my lips.
I once heard the story of a mother whose daughter took off her underwear, sat next to her mother and said, ‘I need some fresh air down here’, saying and doing the exact same thing she had seen her mother do. 

As often as  your children spend time with you, they will continue to pick up habits and behavioral patterns from you as a mother. However, there is always a reason for all of this – being that they spend a lot of time with us and around us as parents. So they are absorbing and soaking in every word, action, body language and sometimes unspoken words.

Now the scripture  written above says this,

“If you want to grow in wisdom, spend time with the wise. Walk with the wicked and you’ll eventually become just like them.”

Did you know that growing in wisdom equals spending time with the wise?  So, it  matters how and who you spend your time with every single day. If you are spending a good chunk of your time with the idle, the complainer and those who have no vision etc. Note that it won’t be long before you become like them.

Seeking Wisdom and Growing in his Word

God is the all-wise God and wisdom can be found in him and his word. According to King Solomon, wisdom comes from God, “For the Lord gives wisdom; from His mouth come knowledge and understanding” Proverbs 2:6.
The word of God says that wisdom is a more valuable commodity than gold and gemstones. For there is nothing you desire that could compare to her. How about getting this more valuable commodity called WISDOM from God who happens to be  wisdom himself.

The first step  in your wisdom journey begins with fearing God. “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom, and the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding. Prov. 9:10
You believe that God is Lord of all and that he calls the shots in your life. Wisdom begins by acknowledging God and accepting his free gift of salvation.

When You Feel like You Lack Wisdom

To get wisdom, sometimes we have to ask for it.

“Now if any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives to all generously and without criticizing, and it will be given to him. But let him ask in faith without doubting. For the doubter is like the surging sea, driven and tossed by the wind.” James 1:5-6

You will always need God’s wisdom to make wise decisions and good judgement as a mother or parent. And nothing beats following whatever God says to you or steps he asks you to take. God’s wisdom is all that you really need on this journey of shaping hearts and building lives.

” But the wisdom that comes from heaven is first of all pure; then peace-loving, considerate, submissive, full of mercy and good fruit, impartial and sincere.” James 3:17 NIV

And if you really want to grow in wisdom, you must learn to give priority to spending time with God and in his word.


This is How To Grow in Wisdom as a Mother

1. Spend time in God’s presence.

“But true wisdom and power are found in God; counsel and understanding are his. Proverbs 12:13 NLT

” True wisdom and real power belong to God; from him we learn how to live, and also what to live for Proverbs 12:13 The Message

2. Spend time studying God’s word.

” The instructions of the Lord are perfect reviving the soul. The decrees of the Lord are trustworthy, making wise the simple.” Psalm 19:7 NLT

“The beginning of wisdom is: Acquire wisdom; And with all your acquiring, get understanding.” Proverbs 4:7 NLT

3. Spend time listening to God’s servants speak and teach.

“For wisdom will enter your heart and knowledge will fill you with joy.” Proverbs 2:10 NLT

” How much better to get wisdom than gold, and good judgment than silver!” Proverbs 16:16

4. Spend time seeking wisdom on a daily basis.

” Those who find true wisdom obtain the tools for understanding, the proper way to live, for they will have a fountain of blessing pouring into their lives.” Proverbs 3:14 TPT

“When your words came, I ate them; they were my joy and my heart’s delight, for I bear your name, Lord God Almighty.” Jeremiah 15:16 NIV

” The wise woman builds her house, but with her own hands the foolish one tears hers down.” Proverbs 14:1 NLT

What steps will you be taking today to grow in God’s wisdom?


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  1. I gained from this piece.thank you ma

  2. Such great advice here! Love all the practical steps to how to grow in wisdom. Thank you!

  3. Thank you for this reminder! It’s very encouraging. Wisdom only comes from God and I’m so thankful he gives it freely!

  4. I loved this article! It’s so important to surround yourself with positive energy, and things that uplift you and inspire you. Negativity is contagious.

  5. not just for moms – but for all of us who are seeking His wisdom on a daily basis…

    1. Ufuoma Fijabi says:

      Yes, indeed. Thanks for dropping by.

  6. Great post! Thank you for sharing

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